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New Kitties [05 Feb 2016|08:15pm]
Today, we brought home our new family members - 3 year old feline brothers Sheldon (white with black spots) and Shisky (black with white spots). They are currently sniffing over every inch of the apartment doing that adorable bobbing up and down thing that cats in new spaces do. They've let us pet them a little bit, but are mostly still pretty skittish of us. We know they get along well generally, but the stress has had them a lil cranky with each other - I figure they'll sort out their territorial issues in time (who gets to be more dominant in which room, etc.). Sheldon - the more outgoing one - is up on the sofa with me now but sitting way on the far end looking around the room.

We bought a basic package of stuff for them at the shelter, but plan to go out this weekend to get some more things - a larger scratching post with different levels for them to hang out in, a nice big covered litter box, some more toys, etc. We'll also call our vet to set up an appointment - the shelter does a good job of looking them over, but they're both getting over a a lil respiratory infection (I think most of the cats had it, prolly going around) and Shisky had some dental work done that will need a check-in.

I'm feeling pretty happy that they're here - feels like the right thing. Can't wait to find out more about their personalities and quirks and stuff. Hope they're happy to be home and start to feel safe soon!
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2016 [15 Jan 2016|07:27pm]
IDK when I became one of those people who abandoned LJ only to come in every few months to remark upon how I never come here anymore, but it's happened and that's that I guess.

I do still want to retain some connection here, though, so I'm grateful as many of you who are still around and posting are still here and allowing me to read your posts!

What I've been up to lately, let's see...

Been missing my cats tons, still. This grief stuff is hard. My mom and step-dad got me a little cabinet for Christmas to make a memorial with. Inside are her ashes and clay paw prints, as well as her food dish, brush, some of her favorite toys, and a few other mementos. My step-sister gave me this beautiful velvet bookmark with a locket attached to it for Christmas and she had thoughtfully put pics of Cleo inside, so that rests on top of the cabinet, and my bestest had once gotten me a plaque of one of those Willow angel things of a woman holding a cat and I have that set up against the cabinet - which rests on top of one of my bookshelves. It's right near the sofa where I spend most of my time, so I can look up and see it whenever.

I've been working on a plan to give the apartment a once-over deep clean and I'm getting towards the end of it - just need to finish up in the bathroom and then vacuum the carpeted areas of the floors and do a little straightening/organizing. Then, we just need to get new cat things (litter box, food and water dishes, scratching post, etc.) and start visiting shelters to meet our new cat. Hoping to get this all done by the end of the month so I'll have a ball of fluff to care for during the rough month of February.

Had lovely holidays with the family. Got to spend some time with my nieces, which was great because I hadn't seen them much this past year. The older niece, who will be ten next month, now has her own ipod and has started emailing me. Yesterday, she emailed to ask if I had skype - so I quickly set up an account and skyped for the first time! We spent an hour chatting last night and another hour today, plus another small conversation after that. Younger niece, who turned five in November, kept popping her head in to say hi and show me stuff (mostly toys, sometimes just random household objects). I'm loving this new development, as it feels like getting to be there with them and I hope we keep doing it. :)

I had awhile this year where my other various obsessions (Sims and TV mostly) plus the distraction of caring for Cleo in her last days and of course the grieving that set in after she was gone kept me from reading as much as I usually do. But recently, I finally started reading the Mercy Thompson series that my friend has been urging me to try, and that sparked me back into reading. I've read the first five books of that already, as well as getting back into some other series I'm in the middle of. So that's been nice.

Still watching gobs and gobs of TV. My idea of having a rec blog on tumblr has not worked out so well, however. I just can't seem to keep up with anything that expects me to be regular about it, so I've gone back to just occasionally reccing things the regular way on my regular tumblr. Oh well.

I got a new TV - it's a Roku TV, so it comes with all the streaming services, meaning I can now watch Netflix and Amazon shows on the big screen and if I download something on the laptop, I can stream it to the TV and when Big Brother season comes back around this summer, I'll be able to put the live feeds up there too. Been having fun with that!

Roomies are still great. Dave bought a new game a couple months back, Splendor, and we got on a kick of playing that a lot at first because ... yea, I have an obsessive personality and when I try something I like, I like to do it over and over again. heh

Oh! Saw Star Wars. Loved it. Want to see it in theaters again, but not sure - both money and energy is tight right now.

And that's pretty much my life. How are all of you? (I did take a quick look down my flist so I've seen generally what's up with those of you who've been posting - hi and sorry I'm so crap at staying in touch! It's part of my new year's resolution to do better at that btw.)
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more on cleo [10 Sep 2015|04:03pm]
I'm still adjusting to life without Cleo. I've gotten where I'm mostly good during the day but bedtime is still very difficult. We had a lot of routine around bedtime and frankly sleeping with my cat was a big help to my insomnia, so not having her fur to smoosh my face into and her body to hold and sleepily pet as I fall asleep is just on a physical level making it harder for me to sleep. Add in all of the emotions involved in it and some nights I start to panic when it becomes time for bed. One of my coping tools is playing old movies in the little TV/VCR in my room - the noise and light give me a sense of company and it's a difference in routine than usual. Also I can convince myself I'm just watching a movie - not trying to fall asleep. (I did this for quite awhile after the breakup with Dave too, and it helped then as well) Another thing I do is sometimes pretend she's still there - not super literally - but I'll follow through with some of the rituals and routines of things I'd say to her and giving the pillow she used to sleep on kisses, etc. It probably seems kind of pathetic, but whatever. It's comforting.

We got her ashes in a little wooden box with her nameplate on them, along with her little pawprints in clay from the vet. Dave had taken some of the fur they'd shaved off of her for the injection that last day and we have that in a little baggie on the shelf with the ashes and prints. The plan is to eventually make a shadowbox with that stuff, some of her favorite toys, and maybe her food dish (it's the same dish she's had since the first day she came into my life over 16 years ago).

I still need to make arrangements to donate the litter and food that's unopened and some of the toys that don't have lots of memories attached but are in good condition. I'll call around to shelters whenever I get the mental and emotional energy up for that. We'll probably toss the scratching posts and obviously the litter box.

I know some people keep their things to use with the next pet, but I just can't do that. When and if we get a new kitty, I'll buy new things for him or her. Cleo's stuff is either getting memorialized in some way or given/tossed away. I just can't do it any other way.

I've had a local friend suggest me as a possible answer for her sister who has two cats that need a new home, but I'm just not feeling ready for that yet. Cleo was more than just a pet - more than just a family member - she was one of my best friends, my baby, my soulmate, my constant companion in this homebound life, and the cuddliest snuggliest most physically and emotionally present cat I've ever known in my life. My entire day was structured around her and I'm still having moments of forgetting she isn't here and having to stop and remind myself that she won't be in the bedroom when I go in there or she won't be trotting out when I make food, etc. Any cat that came into my life now would have all kinds of expectations laid on it that would be totally unfair. I need some time and space to grieve and adjust before I can open my life and heart back up again.

It's still my intention to sit down and write up all of the memories and funny personality quirks and things we've shared over the years, but I think I'm still in distraction mode too much to get myself to start it. Somehow memorializing her makes it more final, I think.

But I'm hanging in. Life is starting to feel more normal again. Just normal with a big gaping hole in the middle. heh
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hanging in [26 Aug 2015|12:52pm]
the grief is strong and hard, but so far it is not triggering depression or ptsd level stuff, which i was always scared might happen when i lost my cleo girl. thank you for the comments and good thoughts - i don't have the spoons for replying much rn but it's helpful to get support.
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[24 Aug 2015|09:21pm]
Cleo is gone.

I don't know what else to say rn. I will probably come back and write up a bunch of memories later. But for now, I'm mostly just crying and trying to get through it.
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more cat [23 Jul 2015|11:34pm]
Today has been stressful and exhausting and sad and terrifying. Cleo had a lil more energy today - which is a good sign! But it also meant her agitation about not being able to get around as much as she'd like was lots higher.

I'm just sort of perma-camped out in the bedroom with her (brought laptop, snacks, food and treats and water for her, etc.). She is kinda learning how to manage her directionals by pivoting with the slightly better hind leg, but it takes a LOT out of her and that combined with the frustration she feels about it is wearing her out - meaning she is working that faulty heart even more.

So I try to bring her food and water to her and help her on and off the bed, around the apartment when she gets the gumption to take a lil walk, etc. And since I never know when she is going to need/wants these things, I'm on kind of 24/7 care duty.

Shayla came over tonight and did "respite care" for me while I took a lil me-time and Dave has done similar for smaller bits of time. The weekend will be easier since both roomies and Shay will be here.

This is all taking a lot out of me, but I'm also happy to have as much time with her as possible while I can. Been crying a lot, giving updates to the vet, Dave at work, etc. - and letting my Big Brother obsession distract me whenever I get some time to veg.

The pill shooter, btw, did not work - leaving all three of us exhausted and traumatized - so we're going to keep doing the crush the pills into soft foods (baby food, wet cat food, broths and soups, cans of chicken and tuna - whatever works - and we'll likely try them all as she gets bored and needs new flavors all the time) and just hope she gets more of the meds than less each time. I figure at thiz rate we'll land somewhere in the middle of the estimate (months if the meds work well regularly and days if we're not doing meds at all) and maybe get another week or so with her. Maybe. If her heart doesn't give out on us in the meantime or other related potential bad things happen.

Oh - and btw - kitty and I have to stop having these creepy E.T./Eliot moments - I snapped my right knee out of place this morning and have been hobbling about myself now! *rolling my eyes at the tricksters*
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cat [22 Jul 2015|04:16pm]
My cat has reached 20 and likely won't last much longer.

She has had kidney failure for quite some time and how has heart failure on top of it, along with degenerative discs in her back making her hind legs somewhat un-usable atm.

We'd stopped giving her the meds a couple months back because she was refusing them and it had become just a big stressor to both of us, but the vet's office today had a few new tips and tools to send home with us - along with some new meds to try and force down her.

If we can get her to take the meds without a lot of extra fuss and bother (thus causing her more stress and therefore sort of outweighing the good that the meds would do), they think she could last several more months - possibly even up to a year.

If not - then she's got a few days. She's currently doped on on the pain meds they gave her in the office today and is pretty miserable about how that in combination with her leg issues is making it difficult for her to get around on her own. I'm trying to help by sitting with her, walking with her when she does try to get up, and bringing food and water directly to her mouth as she's still lying down. Sadly, we did not get her to her litter box in time earlier and she had an accident on the bed. She never has those so she got really worked up, but I cleaned her up and assured it was okay and got her mostly calmed down before she could go into full-on panic mode.

Anyway - this is not going to be easy, even if the meds miraculously go well. So think good thoughts for us? This girl has been the center of my universe for the past 16 years and I can't stand to see her suffer, nor am I at all prepared to lose her. :(
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[13 Jul 2015|04:49pm]
Hi folks!

I'm deeply embroiled in my usual summer Big Brother obsession.

But I took a few moments today to set up a new tumblr blog called sophy recs stuff where I'm going to start putting my big TV posts like I used to do here. I'll try and remember to come here and link to them for those of you who appreciated such posts and don't do the tumblr thing.

I'm also offering to do personal show recs for anyone, so feel free to drop by and ask for one.

http://sophyrecsstuff.tumblr.com/

I've put up two posts about new summer shows so far - currently airing and yet to premiere. Come over and check them out if you wanna know what I'm watching this summer. :)
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WisCon 39 masterpost of links [04 Jun 2015|03:00pm]
All my WisCon writeup posts all in one handy place for linkage.

how I do social media

WisCon panel - Manic Pixies, Magical Negroes, and Other Iconic Harmful Tropes

WisCon panel - Misandry, Reverse Racism, and Other Imaginary Creatures

WisCon panel - Death to Love Triangles

WisCon panel - What Science Knows About Sex and Gender (And What it Doesn't)

WisCon panel - The Future Gender: Beyond the Binary

WisCon panel - How Do You Recommend Problematic Things?

WisCon panel - Internet Memes as Collaborative Microfiction

WisCon panels I was on and other random thoughts - includes Disability and the Starship, Fandom Creators and the Space In-Between, Intersectional Body Positivity, and Why is this Character White? Why Are they Straight?

more WisCon notes - includes thoughts on the trans/genderqueer safer space
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more WisCon notes [04 Jun 2015|02:22pm]
Random WisCon thoughts and ramblings

I spent a short bit of time one evening and a longer bit of time another evening up in the Trans/Genderqueer Safer SpaceCollapse )

Other thoughts...

Cat stuff: yes, I had to leave the con Sunday night because my elderly cat was acting funny and I just felt better being there just in case. So I missed some parties that I was probably too exhausted to go to anyway and also the Voyager panel on Monday which I really was looking forward to and also the closure of getting to say goodbye to everyone. :(

Injuries: I hurt my foot again this year. this year it was during the day b4 the dance party, so I still missed the dance party. what happened was - I kept kicking my stupid walker in the exact same place on my foot. so the thing that was supposed to be helping with my mobility ended up injuring me and making me less mobile. I still have a killer bruise spread out over that foot and I think probably one of my toes is broken, but with the levels of pain I maintain on a daily basis - I'm not really noticing it that much??

All the things/people: had some awesome convos up in my room with folks who were willing to come to me, as well as in the lobby, as well as in the hot tub! my fibro was dragging me down more this year than in year's past so I didn't make it to as many panels as usual and didn't go to any parties and didn't even do a lot of just chilling in public spaces looking for ppl to chat with. which was okay. I missed doing all the things, but you never really can do ALL the things anyway.

Extroversion: I feel for my introvert friends who kinda brave the con and then have to do a lot of recovery afterwards. I am sooooo the opposite. I'm such an extrovert but spend a large part of my life isolated so I get to WisCon and it's like "wheeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!people!!!!!!!!!!1wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" And it does take it out of me *physically* but it totally charges me up emotionally and mentally. I don't come home feeling like I need some alone time at ALL. I come home feeling very sad that my entire life isn't spent surrounded by hundreds of people and that I have to wait a whole year to do this again.

Imposter: still noting the trend of feeling more confident and less imposter syndrome-y every year.

This year specifically: I'm still really just awed and inspired by everyone who made this year's con happen. really any year. but this year specifically. because we had some serious internal issues to sort through this year. and the fact that so many people stepped up to fill in gaps and take over roles and just GOT SHIT DONE - was really impressive. and especially those people who went to the con-specific panels and dug in and had the difficult conversations - just - kudos to you all! I'm so grateful that this is still a place I can go and do my thing and learn the stuff I'm learning and squee about the stuff that makes me squee and get to know and appreciate and enjoy the company of the kinds of people who also come and just. thank you Wis-Con. thank you to the co-chairs, the concom, SF3, all the volunteers, and the whole damn lot of you. Thank you for always trying to do better and be better.
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WisCon panels I was on and other random thoughts [04 Jun 2015|02:14pm]
I have fewer notes for the panels I was on, because I don't take notes while I'm paneling/moderating, so all the disclaimers about stuff I missed and please add to these in the world - but here's a few sporratic things I remember about them and some thoughts I had about them.

The usual disclaimer notes...
1. I'm using the names of panelists as they are listed in the program book and will change/delete names if asked.

2. I won't name any audience member unless said audience member comes forward and asks to be credited for their words.

3. I'm using pronouns to the best of my knowledge - again, please correct if I got any wrong!

The first one was:
Disability and the StarshipCollapse )

Next up was my surprise panelist experience:Fandom, Creators and the Space In-BetweenCollapse )

This next panel was one I have to admit I found kind of frustrating, but also worthwhile in some ways.
Intersectional Body PositivityCollapse )

So anyway, I think there were really good things about the panel, but I definitely left it feeling kind of frustrated and anxious??

Which then led into my last panel-I-was-on for the weekend...

Why is this Character White? Why are they Straight?Collapse )

For ALL of these panels - please please please add any notes you might have, thoughts you had if you attended, any positive or negative feedback you have for me personally or the panel itself, etc. (Feel free to do so privately too - I always appreciate getting feedback so I can be better but know not everyone is comfortable giving it publicly).

Aaaaaaaaaaaaand that's all!


Some other random panel ideas I had throughout the con:
- From the Harmful Tropes panel - something about identifing with villains, why we do it, what that says about examples of ourselves we're given in the media, etc.
- Playing Pretend as early collaborative fanfic.
- Copyrights and Fandom?? (I don't have the expertise to even write such a panel up, but this came up at several different points over the weekend and there were certainly folks who were knowledgeable enough to talk about the topic!)
- Something about intersectionality of service industry - tipping, unions, etc.
- And as noted above, more specific panels about intersectional body positivity.

[Next up is my non-panel related con thoughts, and then my masterpost of links to all of these posts to be linked around]
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WisCon panel - Internet Memes as Collaborative Microfiction [02 Jun 2015|06:45pm]
1. I'm using the names of panelists as they are listed in the program book and will change/delete names if asked.

2. I won't name any audience member unless said audience member comes forward and asks to be credited for their words.

3. I'm human and make mistakes, only wrote down things that sparked my interest, was probably writing something down when something else cool was said... Please feel free to correct me, add info, etc.

4. I am not a professional transcriber, so a lot of this will be paraphrased. Again - please correct me if you said it yourself, or heard it better than I did! Thanks!

5. I'm using pronouns to the best of my knowledge - again, please correct if I got any wrong!

You guys - this was an awesome, hilarious panel. I loved it.

But, at this point in the con I was more than a little exhausted, in pain, and out of it. So between that and the general hilarity - my notes will be a bit scattered.

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This panel was so much more though and way funnier than my choppy notes can begin to describe. More thoughts on it later perhaps!
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WisCon panel - How Do You Recommend Problematic Things? [02 Jun 2015|05:25pm]
1. I'm using the names of panelists as they are listed in the program book and will change/delete names if asked.

2. I won't name any audience member unless said audience member comes forward and asks to be credited for their words.

3. I'm human and make mistakes, only wrote down things that sparked my interest, was probably writing something down when something else cool was said... Please feel free to correct me, add info, etc.

4. I am not a professional transcriber, so a lot of this will be paraphrased. Again - please correct me if you said it yourself, or heard it better than I did! Thanks!

5. I'm using pronouns to the best of my knowledge - again, please correct if I got any wrong!

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WisCon panel - The Future of Gender: Beyond the Binary [02 Jun 2015|03:52pm]
1. I'm using the names of panelists as they are listed in the program book and will change/delete names if asked.

2. I won't name any audience member unless said audience member comes forward and asks to be credited for their words.

3. I'm human and make mistakes, only wrote down things that sparked my interest, was probably writing something down when something else cool was said... Please feel free to correct me, add info, etc.

4. I am not a professional transcriber, so a lot of this will be paraphrased. Again - please correct me if you said it yourself, or heard it better than I did! Thanks!

5. I'm using pronouns to the best of my knowledge - again, please correct if I got any wrong!

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Overall, an interesting panel that I'm really glad I went to!
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WisCon panel - What Science Knows About Sex and Gender (And What it Doesn't) [01 Jun 2015|05:09pm]
1. I'm using the names of panelists as they are listed in the program book and will change/delete names if asked.

2. I won't name any audience member unless said audience member comes forward and asks to be credited for their words.

3. I'm human and make mistakes, only wrote down things that sparked my interest, was probably writing something down when something else cool was said... Please feel free to correct me, add info, etc.

4. I am not a professional transcriber, so a lot of this will be paraphrased. Again - please correct me if you said it yourself, or heard it better than I did! Thanks!

5. I'm using pronouns to the best of my knowledge - again, please correct if I got any wrong!

For this panel specifically:
It was mt first panel in the morning and I was not very awake, I left for a few minutes part-way through to take a phone call, science is not something I understand very well so I spaced out a lot and didn't take very good notes, my handwriting is epically bad in this set of notes, and so there is just a lot that I can't decipher or grok enough to write up. Expect lots and lots of gaps and probably my having written down wrong things here and there. Sorry!!

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I'm sorry these notes are so crappy. The basic conclusion is that stuff is not very well understood by science yet, science means a lot of different things (different fields define things differently), and that there is a lot more to know about sex and gender beyond basic binary definitions!
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WisCon panel - Death to Love Triangles [01 Jun 2015|01:59pm]
General Panel Write-up Info:

1. I'm using the names of panelists as they are listed in the program book and will change/delete names if asked.

2. I won't name any audience member unless said audience member comes forward and asks to be credited for their words.

3. I'm human and make mistakes, only wrote down things that sparked my interest, was probably writing something down when something else cool was said... Please feel free to correct me, add info, etc.

4. I am not a professional transcriber, so a lot of this will be paraphrased. Again - please correct me if you said it yourself, or heard it better than I did! Thanks!

5. I'm using pronouns to the best of my knowledge - again, please correct if I got any wrong!

I was excited about this panel because I actually enjoy love triangles if they're done well but also see how they mostly are not done well, and just yay!

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I have a lot of thinky thoughts on this subject myself, especially in regards to THG because I really don't think the love triangle there was a main part of the story. I agree with Alaya about it being symbolic of the choices Katniss was making, but I don't think it can be simplified down to "choose Peeta for peace and Gale for war". I think a lot more went into both decisions and it wasn't Katniss choosing the guy because of the political decision or vice versa.

I know a lot of people criticize Mockingjay, especially the ending, as Collins refuting her own philosophy in the first two books, but I don't see it that way at all. I see the entire trilogy as being about Katniss navigating all of this confusing stuff and sorting things out for herself and, yes, changing her mind sometimes. And yea, in the end, there was a sense of sort of giving up, and realizing that she could only change so much and there's some cynicism there as far as how much can be changed. But a lot of that is just realistic growing up stuff?

And I don't see Katniss as making her political or her romantic decisions in tandem at all? They inform one another, but they're not equatable. In the end, she really isn't even choosing one over the other.

She makes some drastic political choices, and then also recedes back to her old life in a sort of state of denial about what is going to happen next. Because, frankly, she's had enough trauma already and is seriously burnt out and was used against her will so much that she deserves to get away from it all the end!

She decides she can't be with Gale - not simply because of what he did in the war and how that affected her personally - but because of her careful thoughts on their personalities and how they were too alike in some ways and how she needed to extricate herself from the political stage that he was choosing to become more engaged in.

And that didn't lead directly to her choosing Peeta? It wasn't like - oh, welp, me and Gale won't work so Peeta it is! Like, Katniss would have been perfectly fine being single or finding someone entirely different to be with as well? But Peeta was there, in the same sort of situation as her, and still comforting her and being what she needed, and so eventually, yes, she choose to be with him.

IDK okay, I just have a lot thoughts about this story in particular and how it really doesn't fit the love triangle tropes that everyone seems to think it does?!?!

And also just about love triangles in general and how I think they can often be done in really interesting ways and like - okay - basically what I hate is when the MARKETERS of a story use love triangle tropes to SELL a story that isn't that tropey??? (See: Veronica Mars). But the actual love triangles (and squares, and other shapes, etc.) that I've actually witnessed in my fiction have been interesting ad I've enjoyed them??? (See: The Vampire Diaries, Lost, a lot of the Buffyverse stuff, etc.).

(Can you tell this was a panel I really wanted to be on myself? lol)
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WisCon panel - Misandry, Reverse Racism, and Other Imaginary Creatures [31 May 2015|08:15pm]
General Panel Write-up Info:

1. I'm using the names of panelists as they are listed in the program book and will change/delete names if asked.

2. I won't name any audience member unless said audience member comes forward and asks to be credited for their words.

3. I'm human and make mistakes, only wrote down things that sparked my interest, was probably writing something down when something else cool was said... Please feel free to correct me, add info, etc.

4. I am not a professional transcriber, so a lot of this will be paraphrased. Again - please correct me if you said it yourself, or heard it better than I did! Thanks!

5. I'm using pronouns to the best of my knowledge - again, please correct if I got any wrong!

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Overall, fantastic panel. Super hilarious, and also very smart/informative.
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WisCon panel - Manic Pixies, Magical Negroes, and Other Iconic Harmful Tropes [30 May 2015|05:07pm]
General Panel Write-up Info:

1. I'm using the names of panelists as they are listed in the program book and will change/delete names if asked.

2. I won't name any audience member unless said audience member comes forward and asks to be credited for their words.

3. I'm human and make mistakes, only wrote down things that sparked my interest, was probably writing something down when something else cool was said... Please feel free to correct me, add info, etc.

4. I am not a professional transcriber, so a lot of this will be paraphrased. Again - please correct me if you said it yourself, or heard it better than I did! Thanks!

5. I'm using pronouns to the best of my knowledge - again, please correct if I got any wrong!

For this panel specifically: it was my first panel of the con, I came in about half-way through so missed all of that content, and also it took me awhile to really settle in and take notes. I also was sitting in the back and off to the side in a large, crowded room and quite likely got some names mixed up, especially since I missed the panel intros at the start.

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wiscon writeups [29 May 2015|12:30pm]
So I'll be writing up my WisCon panels soon. I went to half the number as I did last year - between leaving slightly early (Sunday night vs. Monday afternoon) and feeling the fibro a bit heavier than I have in the past, I just wasn't able to push myself to as many panels as I wanted to. Also, I purposefully made the choice to sit and be social at times vs. going to a panel, and I don't regret that at all.

I also did not attend a single party this year, which makes me kind of sad because there were some interesting ones that were not of the usual sit-around-and-talk type. But it just didn't happen.

Anyway... panels I did attend this year and will be writing up are:

Manic Pixies, Magical Negroes, and Other Iconic Harmful Tropes (2nd half of panel)

Misandry, Reverse Racism, and Other Imaginary Creatures

Death to Love Triangles

What Science Knows About Sex and Gender (And What It Doesn’t) (partial notes)

The Future of Gender: Beyond the Binary

How Do You Recommend Problematic Things?

Internet Memes as Collaborative Microfiction


Then I’ll have brief notes/thoughts on the four panels I was on - Disability and the Starship, Fandom Creators and The Space In Between, Intersectional Body Positivity, and Why Is This Character White? Why Are They Straight?

When I get all that done, I might do a sort of my thoughts on the con overall kinda post as well.

I'm going to do the initial write-ups here as I have in years past and then link them about to my other online places.
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how i do social media [26 May 2015|12:55pm]
copy and pasting from my tumblr:

Post-WisCon there is always a flurry of adding folks on all of the platforms which is awesome! And I figure it’s a great opportunity, once a year, to recap where I am, how I use each site, if you should add me there, etc. So here goes (and I’ll link this about):

Tumblr (sophygurl): This is the site I use most often. I do occasionally make personal texty posts, but the great majority of my posts are reblogs. Primarily fandom related (allll of the TV shows, and sometimes movies and books). Also signal boosting important causes, puns, memes, cat pics, and genderqueer/genderbending pics.

As far as keeping up with my dash - I’m erratic. I might skip whole days in a row and then spend an entire 12 hours reblogging everything on my dash. I try to remember to go specifically to particular friend’s blogs every now and then because I almost never get caught up on even a day’s worth of posts anymore. I keep finding too many interesting people to add!

Please do feel free to add me, but also please feel free not to if you’re just not into the content I post. We can be friends elsewhere and not be tumblr mutuals - I won’t be offended. If you do add me - a quick note reminding me who you are if we met at WisCon or from another site is awesome as I have memory problems.

Facebook (my real first and last name - ask if you don’t know it): Probably the site I use second most frequently. But you should know that I am not religious about keeping up to date on FB. I don’t even change the timeline feed to include everyone or sort it by date or whatever because I kinda like the randomosity of it all. I post probably equal parts short personal things (mostly complaining about my health tbh) and reblogs of cool shit or political shit I agree with.

Feel free to add me, and as long as you remind me who you are, I will add back.

I also tend to use FB as a messaging service because I’m not a texter. So that’s a good place to get ahold of me online if you need my attention quick!

Twitter (sophygurl):
My tendencies with twitter are: use it a lot shortly before, during, and after WisCon. Use it a lot during Big Brother season. Use it sparingly otherwise. I’m thinking that might change and I might be starting to use it more now, but we’ll see what happens come fall (BB season starts up soon after con-flurry starts to fade).

Again, add away or not - mute all the BB nonsense if you came for the feminism and don’t care to stay for the reality TV. Whatever. It’s all good.

Livejournal (sophy):
This used to my home online. I don’t go there as often as I used to, but I still have warm feelings for the place. Often, if I want to make a long more deeply emotional post, I still go there. Same rules apply - add me if you wish, remind me who you are, etc.

Dreamwidth (sophygurl): I use this even less frequently than LJ and really only go there to read posts anymore, so only add me there if you post things there that you don’t cross-post elsewhere so that I can read that content when I remember to go there. No need to add me there to read what I have to say because anything I say there is cross-posted elsewhere.

Blog-reading: If you have a non-tumblr, non-LJ/DW blog, please feel free to tell me about it! I do have a blog reader and I do have a “people I know” folder there that I try to get to on at least a monthly basis. I have no such animal to reciprocate with at the moment.

Private contact: If you’d like my email address, phone number, whatever, lmk. I almost never use the phone, tho, so email and these other sites here are much better ways to reach me.

General info about engaging with me online:


I feel shy about adding people first. Sometimes I do it, but I super appreciate it when ppl I’ve interacted with add me because then I know I’m not just being an annoying creeper and feel comfy adding back and interacting with you!

I’m mostly homebound due to chronic illness, so the internet is a big part of my socialization. However, that same chronic illness sometimes makes it so that I’m away from the net for days at a time, too.

I’m an extrovert stuck in an introvert’s body, basically, so I love love love interactions of all kinds. Fill my inbox! Give me comments! Send me private messages! It will make me day.

I 100% get why this isn’t true for most people - but I actually don’t mind at all mixing my various online and real life identities, so you can call me Rosemary or sophy in person or online and it’s all good.

Speaking of identities… I’m a cis genderqueer woman, some form of non-monosexual/romantic orientation, poly, disabled, fat, mentally ill, cat person, feminist, leo, usually enfp but sometimes enfj or infp/j, single, childless auntie, living with my platonic queer poly tribe, major TV fan, dorky, liberal, mystic agnostic, critical fan of problematic things.
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